Devina Kaur: Author, creative entrepreneur, researcher, inspirational speaker, radio host and producer of the 𝐁𝐑𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐈𝐀𝐍𝐓𝐋𝐘 𝐒𝐄𝐗𝐘 show with Devina Kaur and founder of the Sexy Brilliant™ Global Revolution.
Sexy Brilliant™ is a non-profit foundation dedicated to removing toxic shame and raising human consciousness. At the heart of Sexy Brilliant ideology lies the universal concept that we are all worthy of love.
Devina Kaur has developed her signature, life-changing KAUR™ process , which teaches empowerment through self-knowledge, self-love, and radical self-acceptance. Her book ‘Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious’, first book in the Sexy Brilliant™ series that puts special emphasis on the KAUR™ process. Her online courses are changing lives all over the world, as her students learn to rediscover their divine authentic selves!
Devina Kaur is also a full time single mother, a yogi, a martial artist, and a lover of both animals and people alike.
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1) There’s nothing more brilliant than a woman owning herself and spreading the knowledge to others. But assuming you always pen down your experiences that shape you what led you to write the book.
Ans- Putting together my book ‘TOO FAT, TOO LOUD, TOO AMBITIOUS’ was a personal challenge in writing and it was deeply intimate because for me it was symbolic to how far I’ve come not only in terms of my career but also as an individual. I hope by sharing more of myself with the world in the most authentic yet brilliantly sexy and unapologetic way that others find the courage to do the same. Life is such an adventure, we all have problems and challenges however being resilient are the key. It’s resilience that took me from where I was as a person to where I am today. My journey will never stop. My creative self-expression is something I look forward to sharing with the world and those I love. Writing is just one of the many ways I do that.
2) Did you know you were always going to do this? What drives you and how do you balance goals and experiences?
Ans- I was born and raised in a traditional Punjabi family in India, I was constantly told that my body was too fat to be loved, my laugh was too loud and masculine and that my ambition was too much for the world. Through years of therapy and professional help, I have UNLEARNED this previous conditioning and discovered that my inner wealth was never too fat for me to celebrate, my laugh is perfect to attract the right people and my ambition is never too much. Today, I can confidently say that my biggest motivation stems from wanting to inspire others to be their divine authentic selves, especially in a world that reminds us daily what is wrong with us—whether it’s our bodies, our minds or whatever it is that makes us unique.
My voice may be too loud for the world but it has never been too loud in my journey towards making my dreams come to life.
That is ultimately what the Sexy Brilliant™ non-profit foundation is all about. Being uniquely, perfectly YOU and removing the shame and stigma associated with being authentic. I want to leave a legacy that speaks to what I have to offer this world; I want the Sexy Brilliant community to feel encouraged about who they are without feeling ashamed of being the truest version of themselves. Everybody has something to offer. We need to celebrate one another for the value that each of us bring to the table, and extend that table for future generations. So to answer your question, It is a calling that was inspired by my unlearning process and is part of me confirming my right to be me. I want that for everyone!
3) Is there a passion that you are working towards and How?
Ans- I’m working on a short book series that will help guide those who are going through various challenges in their lives for instance addictions, insecurities, eating disorders to regain purpose. As somebody who has struggled with addictions and eating disorders myself, these issues matter to me because I know the journey of going through them can be hard and lonely. The purpose of the series is to help people find their sense of self and to make them understand that they are worthy of healing and love. With this being said, there are so many exciting things I am working on because I’m the type of person who is always buzzing with ideas and strategizing with my wonderful team. I want to change the world and empower people through the work of the Sexy Brilliant non profit foundation in removing toxic shame and raising human consciousness
4) To make your story relatable to those who might need some inspiration, on empowering women, can you share your challenges as a woman in your line and how you overcame them?
Ans- Challenges come on the path to true success, and nobody is exempt from experiencing difficulties that will ultimately test our strength and courage. My journey has been filled with many challenges, from overcoming addictions, to living a lonely life in the world of a start-up business. Enduring a semi-arranged marriage, to being a full time single mother. It’s not easy, however, I am thankful for the entire journey because not only have I grown from my experiences but I’ve learned alot from them.
I always say there is strength in numbers and that means actively seeking out support from people that love you and you look up too. Getting the right team and professionals is key to a good support system in your life. When you are surrounded by spiritually wise, genuine people you will be more inclined to find joy in daily things. This has motivated me to achieve my goals and face challenges. It makes the tough times seem less of a burden to me.
I have struggled with depression and I just want to say, If you are struggling with dark thoughts, remember that no part of you is your own enemy. Welcome every moment and feelings and treat every emotion like a gift; never be ashamed to seek professional help to grow into a version of yourself that you would be proud of—in spite of all the difficulties you face, know they will shape you into a stronger, more resilient person.
5) What advice do you wish to give to someone who may be in a similar situation as you?
Ans- Don’t wait for others to make things happen, don’t wait for permission and let go of the labels. When you practice radical acceptance of others you also make room to be less self-judgemental.
Never change yourself to fit the standards of the world and those around you. Being authentic is something that nobody should fear because authenticity is the new currency of the world. Embrace yourself in such a way that it leaves no room for the other people to treat you less than you deserve. Be kind, patient and have compassion for yourself. Don’t rush according to other people’s timeline at the same time don’t delay any further the happiness you know you deserve.
Be respectful to your friends, family and strangers alike but understand that they all speak and judge from their own perceived level of consciousness. Your challenge is to unlearn the old programming while listening to your own intuition and inner voice. Never be afraid to follow your dreams because the world needs to hear them. Understand that not everybody will love or cherish you the way you think you deserve. As long as you have yourself and are surrounded by those who want to see the best in you, nothing else matters.
6) What is your life motto, quote, belief that keeps you motivated to your goal?
Ans- Always Sexy! Always Brilliant! Is my mantra. What I have learned after surviving the startup world is that it is important to be flexible in your goals. That also means to stay focussed but be willing to change course as you receive new information. Dream big, energy follows intention.
7) Lastly, tell us about your book! What can we expect from it?
Ans- When you read ‘Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious’ I think some readers might be a little shocked by my openness and honesty. The book has its racy moments as I talk about sexual pleasure and my relationship with my body. I hope that readers will find it refreshing and eye opening. My goal is to lift the veil of shame by talking about the things that many people feel too guarded to talk about for fear of judgment. I just felt that it was important to lead the way for others by showing them they are not alone and the path to authentic self-love does not have to be so scary. The KAUR™ process that I outline in the book is meant to provide a clear illuminated path that is easier to follow to help you find your own sexy brilliance.
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Dolly Jain: Inspiring generations ,one pleat at a time!
Dolly Jain has been an inspiration and a flag bearer of no work is small or non-monetizable, no dream is small and everything starts at home! From draping saree as a world record in 18.5 secs to draping it in different styles may that be celebrities, their weddings or working with big designer houses!
1) You were a homemaker with impressive saree draping styles which apparently turned into your profession!
How would you describe your journey?
2) “Saree is India’s traditional wear which is somewhat fading away”. People choose to wear more western outfits.
What is your opinion on this statement?
Dolly Jain: I don’t agree with this because about Saree-I could say, like, 10 years down the line, people had literally stopped wearing sarees. They jumped into, like, you know, the young ones jumped into gowns and the moms, like our moms who are wearing sarees on regular basis started wearing Kurtis. But I have I mean, I would say maybe 1% of my effort, but I have seen a huge, huge comeback of sarees. Now, not only the moms but also the young girls and the young generation. They love to wear Saris. They just need an occasion and an opportunity to wear saris. Whether it’s a school farewell party or get-together a meet. I think they all have started wearing sarees in different, different ways. Clubbing with jackets, denim, and skirts. I would say that saree would always be there. And, uh, saree has done a huge comeback
3] We have read on the internet about you setting up a “Limca book of record” draping saree in just 18.5 secs, which is commendable!!
What sort of riyaz did you do to get this accurate and swift?
Dolly Jain: If you believe me, I didn’t do any practice. I didn’t do any Riaz. I literally did nothing. It just so happened that I was draping saree and my daughter came up to me and she said, Mom, you drape Saree so fast I said, Yeah, I was draping and she said, Okay, let’s record it. And obviously, when we were recording, my speed was a little more but didn’t know that I could make it up in 18.5 seconds. So it just happened. Basically, I didn’t practice. I didn’t do anything. And once that happened, we sent it to the people, and that’s how it just worked. So I literally didn’t practice, and I don’t practice the speed. What I only practice for coming up with new styles for the next generation.
4] There are innumerable saree materials and draping styles followed in each corner of India. Which style of fabric is your favorite one?
Dolly Jain: um, I think, I loved every fabric. I don’t know why I’m never able choose any specific fabric! Because I live in Bengal, So I love Dhakai. Born and brought up in Bangalore, I love the Kanjivaram as well. Um, even a net fabric came in. I loved the net. Now it’s organza and organza has been my all-time favorite. So I think if you just ask, then I could say An organza saree. And I love draping it where people just find this fabric very, very difficult. I find it the easiest to drape organza Saree.
5) “There is a drape for every personality, every occasion, and every mood. I have visualized them all” a well-said quote by you.
What impact did you want to always make with the quote and the work?
Dolly Jain: Definitely, there is a drape for every personality every occasion and every mood this is so rightly said ! See if I just see my Granny and if she wore something like a net saree with an open pallu I don’t think so I will be able to take up my granny !! It’s also about the personality and it’s also about the age. I think there are few fabrics which just defines your perfect sari for that perfect age ! So I think like a net sari for a young girl with toned body and everything if she’s wearing it, I would just say that she looks gorgeous in that sari with that same saree on my granny in the same way I think would not appeal to me for every occasion!
I have like a beautifully fully embroidered saree and you know if it is something like a sad moment definitely that sari doesn’t suit the occasion ! If it is a happy moment and you’re wearing a white plain saree which has no detailing and there’s no jewelry will be so weird. So I just feel every saree has got an occasion, every saree has got its personality, every saree has got its mood and it just takes the shape of the body and it just fits so well ! I would say that you just need to know what is your type and what is your kind which country you’re moving in what is your society around and then decide the drape and then decide the sari I think that’s so much much smarter way to do it !
6) Besides this stressful professional life, how do you cope with the pressure and balance your personal life as well?
Dolly Jain: This is a very difficult question. Professional life and personal life, I think these are two, different streams. And it is so difficult to balance both. But I think women are programmed by God in such a way that they can manage and they can balance both.
My kids have grown up now, but when they were young, I think that was the time when I really miss them a lot. When a girl child is born especially, I don’t know about the boy child, because I don’t have a boy! But when a girl child is born, her mother always wants to see her grow, from the first time she walked, from the first teeth to the first word she spoke. the school, the dances, the activities everything!
I think she just wants to cherish every moment, but that apparently couldn’t happen with me because I was so busy with my work that I had to balance both there are alot of times when I think my husband has been like a good mother to my kids and he’s taken care of them. So I think my kids have grown up more with the dad than with the mom. But today when I look back I just wish I had a better way to balance both but somehow I think my kids have not been complaining they’ve been very happy, they’ve always been with me, they’ve taught me so many things and they never gave me stress. I think that is so important.
If a lady is growing in her career it’s so important for the whole family not only the kids, the husband , the inlaws everybody to be one and support the person so that she could stand and you because she believes in herself! So I think if you make the situation difficult I think she will do what she wants to do but the situation the work mode and every surrounding becomes very difficult for her. I’m blessed that nothing of this sort happened!
7) In your entire career, what is the contribution of designer Sandeep Khosla sir who insisted you do celebrity clients and help you pursue it?
I can’t thank Sandeep Khosla because he’s been the person who has actually seen my art. He was the one who introduced me to the big houses, from Ambanis to Bajaj to Mehtas to Jindals. He is the one who actually saw that she can do much more and, you know, the diamond doesn’t know its value. I could call myself a diamond here, but the person who was actually engraving the diamond, in that beautiful ring! That person knows what value this is, and then who’s wearing it. So I think, Sandeep saw all of this in me and then he literally groomed me and pushed me into society, and that’s how I am where I am.
8) Speaking of celebrities, you have draped outfits for Deepika Padukone, Isha Ambani, Priyanka Chopra, etc. Working with many celebs, who would say was the best experience amongst all of them and how?
I can’t see any one celebrity. When I did Sonam Kapoor, she was the best bride for me, when I did her drape for the wedding, it was like such a beautiful dream wedding then I did Deepika then I did Isha Ambani then I did Akash then I did know Alia at that time and I’ve done a couple of projects with her. I didn’t Antara last you know wedding so i feel everybody has got its beauty and they’ve always been so kind and so polite to me. I never had a problem with them they’ve always loved my work!
They’ve always appreciated my work so can’t name anyone but I’m glad that you know I could come up to this stage where people initially thought that I’ve gone mad and I’ll never be able to make a career out of it today. They all want to start a career in Saree draping, I think that’s like a huge thing for society and it’s also a learning thing for the society that never look upon any work, No work is big or small it’s just the way you look into it!
9) You draped Natasha Poonawala’s outfit in the world’s enormous fashion event i.e Met Gala? How’d you initially felt when you were given this opportunity? Were you excited or nervous or anxious, etc.?
Sabyasachi had called me up for Natasha Poonawala drape, it was a very happy moment doing something for the Met Gala and you know representing India. When Natasha was doing this and all the way calling me from Calcutta to do this gave me a huge huge honor! Also I proved myself that I am capable!
You know it’s not always someone else credit sometimes you should give the credit to you! You are capable, that’s the reason people hire you, people call you because you know your job very well and it is no joke to be at the Met Gala!
I’m glad Sabhyasachi who is one of India’s favorite and one of the best designers of our country and not only country but world-renowned designer saw this in me and when I was given this opportunity I didn’t have a look at the sari didn’t know what I was doing but just saw the whole thing like a day before and was very nervous definitely but I have always been very confident in my work because I know when it comes to Saree I can’t go wrong! So I think Saree is like my baby and I just handle it with lot of love. So it just falls so beautifully on the person whom I’m draping.
10) What message would you like to give your well-wishers?
Dolly Jain:One message that I would give to all my well-wishers, my friends, my followers, my instant family, my Facebook, my youtube, family, every single person, every single woman living on this planet. I would just say one thing God has given everyone 24 hours and we all have been blessed with something or the other special thing. But what actually happens is in that 24 hours, we give our precious 16-17hrs to the family, not even thinking that you know we might need that half an hour for ourselves. I’ve spoken to so many women and they say OK we don’t have time, We don’t have time!
I know how to do this but I don’t have time I just say that it is fine to give your 12 to the family it’s fine but then I think in that 12 if you can just squeeze in things and give that half an hour or 30mins to the thing that you would love to do you would want to do I think you will also excel in your field. It might be a storytelling thing, it might be poetry, it might be listening to music, it might be dancing, writing poems, singing it, or might be playing an instrument but that period should be yours!
You should just feel happy that apart from all the other routine work that you’ve been doing as a mother, as a wife, as a daughter-in-law blah blah blah you have also done something that you cherished and was your hobby, and when that hobby turns into a fashion when that passion turns into a profession you never know!
So it’s time for you to start today, there is no tomorrow! Say in this 24 hours, I’m going to do this this this and that 45 minutes should be included in your agenda, no matter what you do but that 45 minute shouldn’t move so I think we all can do it is just how we plan it! You have to basically direct your mind and be very strict about it and then just see the magic happen all the best guys ! I love you all stay safe stay blessed.
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Sakshi Sindwani smashing stereotypes & conquering heights!
If you know someone who broke barriers in the world of modeling, inspired someone to achieve anything and everything despite the hurdles broke the stereotypes and changed the mindsets of people to make the world a better place to live. IT DEFINITELY HAS TO BE SAKSHI SINDWANI and we bet over that!
She does it all! Whether be acing the ramp, featuring on the Harper’s Bazaar cover page or acing the IIFA with her charm or be it her presence at ICW 2022!
A dive into her life, goals and inspirations through this interview!
1) In order to stay relevant one needs to stay updated and rejuvenate themselves with the change in technology and trends. How has this change impacted your personal growth?
Sakshi Sindwani: I think being on social media for the last three years. I have been very much in the world of social media, and I think it’s truly taken my life over. But there are personal aspects of my life that I do not put on social media.I think it’s for my sanity. Not because I don’t want to or there is a hidden meaning behind it.
I think I need to protect a few things in my life and keep it behind and personal to me. I think it’s my time away from social media, and it helps rejuvenate and stay grounded. It puts me sort of back to reality because no matter how much we say, social media is very consuming, and that’s how it is made, and it’s going to get more and more consuming, and your attention span will go down sometimes, and sometimes it will go up . But it will all be about the next big thing and what’s happening next or what’s happening in somebody else’s life.
Just like everybody is so super connected through social media, which is a good thing, but it’s also a bad thing coz sometimes it can disconnect you from yourself and your journey. So I think the things that I try to do is, try to maintain a small circle of people who are not just the yes man in my life.
They are the true people who show me how to stay grounded. How to not lose myself in the whole world of glamour and fame and social media numbers, which are lucrative things but in the long run, they can harm your self-esteem and dim your personality. I think these people around me keep me grounded, and then sometimes I have off a day of social media where I like to do adventure things that really bring my spirit back, and travel rejuvenates me, talking to new people rejuvenates me. Even if it’s through work, it does. It’s something I get very passionate about.
2)In today’s era, a lot of teenagers and young adults look forward to being an influencer to get into the fashion and entertainment industry. They have started to value their worth based on the number of likes or followers that they have. What will be your message to them?
Sakshi Sindwani:I think for anybody who wants to come on social media, it’s a great thing. The world is moving toward digital media, and it’s only fair for people to recognize opportunities and jump on that band value. But that being said, I think anyone who wants to come on social media needs to have very strong self-esteem and very strong confidence about themselves.I think belief about themselves is important.
If you come with low self-esteem and low self-esteem in yourself, then you know social media can suck the life out of you, and the numbers can get to your head. It’s very important for someone coming on social media to, you know, realize that your craft needs to have the number 1 priority, and everything comes later. You know you need to be the most authentic and best version of yourself. Bring your craft to the audience, and the way the audience reacts to it is on the. You can’t really control everybody. You have to show up and be the best version of yourself even on social media like you do otherwise in life as well. I think when you have a good foundation, it’s almost crucial.
The more you get bigger, the more you get obsessed with numbers.
It’s a hard fact. I remember when I was at 50K, the next big thing for me was a 100K. I used to think that 100k would change my life and I will achieve everything in life and at that time, you do feel that way.
It’s an unattainable goal for you, and then 100 k becomes 200k, 500k, and a million, and then it never stops. That journey never stops, and even though when you are a small creator, you feel if you reach a higher number, your life will be all set.
That’s not how it works, that’s the human tendency in you that you keep growing out to the next big thing, and sometimes you see the high, but you also see the low, and then you reach this stagnancy. You need to have a strong belief system, and you need to surround yourself with people who believe in you as much as you believe in yourself.
3) During your college life was fashion an important part of your everyday life and personality even then?
Sakshi Sindwani: Definitely, I remember there was a time when I was really struggling with getting my personality out and expressing myself fashion-wise. I actually spoke about this in one of my recent podcasts where I said that I give myself a challenge for a week. This week I am going to pretend that I am the most confident bad bitch that you can possibly imagine and the most confident version of myself, and I will wear whatever the heck I want to for a week. No matter what people say, no matter how many people make fun of me, I am just going to do that. I am just going to do a trial test of doing this for one week, and that was the happiest fashion-wise week of my college life and then that became my normal slowly and steadily.
Being a person who had a very strong sense of fashion and style ever since I was six years old. I remember I was ahead of my game even then. I have seen pictures, but college definitely changed the way I looked at myself and style and fashion.
4) When you got into making fashion content, how was your initial approach? Did you plan everything or were you more inclined towards going with the flow? Has it changed now?
Sakshi Sindwani: I think when I started making fashion videos, I started on youtube, and at that time, I was going through discovering myself and finding my foot on social media, and social media can be really daunting. Especially at a time when I started, this was literally 4-5 years back. Not a lot of social media content creators were present and Instagram was still not a video platform.
It was still a more aesthetic-looking feed, everything super similarly color graded, and beautiful feeds and visuals and pictures and all of those things, and youtube was the video content platform and I always knew that I wanted to be a video content creator. At that time, I would look at trends; I would look at Sarojini Nagar haul, Street shopping hauls, going to Chandani chowk and making guides about it and all of that. A lot of Shein, H&M, and Zara hauls, and all of those things, but I did like it at that time I would not deny that I didn’t like it, but it’s just that it wasn’t true representation of my style.
I was still trying to figure out the content that I wanted to make. My voice and the trends and what’s getting numbers and what’s helping you grow.
With all of those things, you know you can feel a little lost, especially when you are a young content creator. When I came on Instagram, I came with the intention that I was going to start making videos even though they were going to be from my balcony.
When I started my first series, which was the first video series on Instagram, back in 2019, again, Instagram was not a video platform at the time, but in 2019 when I started creating videos, it was out of my balcony. Where I decided to make one single fashion video every day for the next 365 days, and at that point, I had a little bit of burnout, obviously because I was not being true to myself on youtube, so I had a burnout, and It went a little haywire.
When I started on Instagram, I wasn’t focusing on any best quality or anything. I was going with the flow. I was like, whatever I am wearing today, I am going to show that to the people and explain how you dress up for a bigger body type and what works for me and literally talk about my fashion sense. That’s it. Like I don’t want to have stressed over creating aesthetically looking feeds and everything so properly color graded and matched and the grids of three’s and five’s and all that. It was not my aesthetic at all.
So I started to make those things, and thankfully it worked out. I did go with the flow at that time, and to this day, a big part of my content is going with the flow, creating what is keeping me interested and what is keeping the audience interested. Of course, when you grow older, there is a lot more strategy that gets involved, and you know you will start thinking about what the audience is reacting to better. Let’s make more of that, and you know, strategizing and studying your analytics become a big part.
At the starting, I don’t think I was worried about those things because I didn’t have the numbers, and I had nothing to lose. Now there is slight fear in my mind that okay, if people don’t like this, it’s not going to get the views, and no matter how much hard work I put into it, I won’t get the views. So sometimes those things affect my confidence, but I still try to go with the flow. After every 4-5 content pieces, I make one content piece for myself that gives my creative vision justice.
I think it’s very important to my sanity because, again, I am a creative person. I started to be a storyteller about fashion on the internet, that’s how I started, and I want to maintain those things about me. So I think I started as go with the flow, but now it’s a little bit of a mix of going with the flow and what you want, what the audience wants, studying the stats, and all of that.
5) You have spoken about your obsession with youtube when you were in school and how you started your journey of content creation with it. Who was your favorite youtube content creator ?
Sakshi Sindwani: I think back in the day. It was definitely Bethany Mota. When I started my youtube channel, she was the biggest fashion Youtuber and such a bubbly girl at that time. When I was in 7th- 8th grade in school, I was a really young kid, and I used to relate to her a lot because she was also a chirpy, bubbly, colorful girl. I think she really hipped my journey and inspired me. Back in the day, like I said, she was the biggest one and the kind of opportunity that was coming to her. she was the first influencer, I think, in the world, who had launched a clothing line in collaboration with Aeropostale. That was like such an eye-opener for me. These things can happen. People can have a collection. Those things were new at the time and definitely inspired my journey.
6) Throughout your career so far what has been the most memorable moment for you?
There have been tons of memorable moments, thankfully so and hopefully, so those are just the start of memorable moments for me, but I am going to list a few of them. The first one being, I think, when I got the offer to be on the cover of Harper Bazaar’s magazine in 2019 of November. That was a big one for me because, at that time, I was a very small content creator. I had freshly done a few of my ramps. I was the first mid-size model for India fashion week, and I think that was a history that had been created in itself. So when I had gotten the Harper Bazaar opportunity, that was a big deal for me.
Then BBC world news wanted to interview me as the first inclusive model in India. That aired around the world in New York, London, and wherever BBC aired. Then when I got the opportunity to be featured by Forbes. It was a very big thing. I have won a few awards. The Femina award was a big thing, and the Cosmo award was a big thing. When I got featured in Vogue, it was a very big thing for me. When I was casted to be in the campaign of Manish Malhotra, that was also a very big thing for me. Getting invited to IIFA was also a huge thing.
7) You were recently at IIFA, how was that experience for you?
Sakshi Sindwani: Definitely overwhelming, something that I don’t think in my wildest dreams thought it could be a possibility that somebody who was so severely bullied! Just like I didn’t even think that the opportunities that I am getting and living today could even be possible. I didn’t think these opportunities were possible at all back in the days. But one thousand percent it was one of the most overwhelming and genuinely beautiful experiences. It gave me a lot of learning.
The reason why I say beautiful is because there were a lot of good things and also challenges that came with it. But overall, it was a beautiful journey. Iifa happened to me so suddenly. When I recall the instance when I got the message from my manager that I was going to IIfa, the first response was that I started crying. I don’t usually cry. I keep things to myself, lot of the times because I am so superstitious that way. Even I don’t tell my family the things that I get finalized for till it doesn’t actually happen in real. I don’t tell my closest one. But when I received the message for Iifa, I burst into tears. It was very overwhelming for me.
Like I said, I never thought it would be a possibility, and then doing the whole green carpet and having people recognize me in Abu Dhabi in Dubai was insane. You don’t dream of these things. I know there were a few people who came to me with watery eyes saying how much I have inspired them and How much they love themselves because of me. These are not the normal things that anybody gets to hear. Because I get to hear these things so often, it’s the biggest deal for me.
8) You wear and style a lot of new emerging brands. Which one will be your personal favorite?
Sakshi Sindwani: I cannot choose a personal favorite. All my homegrown brands are extremely exquisitely special to me because they are my homegrown brand. They are a more conscious brand. I think they are the new generation of how brands should approach everything when it comes to building the brand or bringing the people who work for them. Size inclusivity. The way they run campaigns. I think the new generation really knows their work. They are more aware, and they are heading in the right direction when it comes to fashion.
9) If given a choice, what would be the one change that you would make in the social media world for aspiring content creators?
Sakshi Sindwani: The biggest thing that I will say is that don’t be afraid of people saying no to you. I have had my fair share of no and struggle in the industry. It’s very difficult to crack open but keep working hard and stay consistent at what you do, whether it’s content creation on social media. Whether it’s pitching to a designer. Try to speak to as many people as possible and have faith in yourself.
I think that’s the most important. I think when it comes to working, be mindful of what kind of projects you are taking and be mindful of the direction you want to go in. Don’t be afraid to make a few mistakes because those mistakes will give you a lot of learning. Just try not to make the mistakes very personal. I think some mistakes are always due in everybody’s career. I think failing sometimes gives you the biggest learning. It has happened to me. I have failed multiple times. People wouldn’t believe it, but there are so many times I have failed as a person and in my career, but I never gave up. I think the biggest thing is that no matter how hard and cliche it sounds but never give up.
10) In one of your recent Instagram stories you said that you often fail to complete the work that you have decided for yourself on the days when it rains and is gloomy. How do you work with that? Do you get disappointed?
Sakshi Sindwani: I used to get very disappointed if I didn’t work because I have a very strong work culture in my house and a very strong work ethic that I have grown up listening to and instilled in me, but as I am growing older. I realize that you need to have some off mental health days. Like you need to have some off days for your peace and sanity, and when there are days where I don’t feel like working. I get up wanting to enjoy the day or the rain like that. I allow myself to have that moment because life is not just about the next big thing and the hustle and the entire hustle culture. There are smaller things, and by finding joy in them, peace in silence, you should still be able to feel successful. I allow myself to feel that way.
11) What will you say to the people who compare their bodies with the models on Instagram? What will be your message to them about body positivity?
Sakshi Sindwani: I think it’s a very toxic thing to compare yourself with anybody, Whether it’s comparing your body or career or anything about your life. Just always remember that social media is fake. It is a filtered reality. If people show you that they are happiest looking at their bodies might be struggling with their bodies. Even though in your eyes they might have the perfect bodies. They might not have the perfect bodies in their own eyes. So I think it’s very wrong for you to compare yourself with anybody on social media, and I think the best way to move forward. It worked for me. I unfollowed pages and muted pages that trigged me in any way.
What I think is that the List that you see and the List that you will get triggered and it was a very important step that I took for my mental health, especially in the initial few years and months of my self-love journey. I am still on that journey. Of course, I have a stronger belief system in myself. Like now, if I see things that trigger me, it won’t trigger me a lot, but back in the day, if I saw pages like that, they would trigger me a lot, so I would mute them and follow more pages that made me feel good about myself. It’s not always about body positivity. I think nobody can be positive all the time about their bodies. It’s okay to have low days.
I have this particular rule. 15 Minute rule. If I feel really bad about my body or if its a blue day or if I look a certain way and I do not like my pictures and videos, I give myself 15 minutes to crib about it, and then I have to just drop it and let it go and then I have to be my true self.
12) Lastly, what will be your message to your fans?
The biggest message that I will give my fans is that don’t compare yourself to the people who are sharing filtered reality on the internet. Self-love is a journey. People can inspire you on that journey, but you need to start it yourself. No one can. Be yourself.Sakshi Sindwani
You are literally the most beautiful and the most amazing and the most thrilling person. Don’t try to be somebody else just because you think they are cool. Just remember that you are even cooler. Please remind yourself that you love yourself because that is the relationship that is ever so important and needs to be nurtured ever so often.
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