An ever enthusiastic and cheerful Tara Alisha Berry gave us a glimpse in her personal life and her insights in life and we had a wonderful session! An Indian film and theatre actress, known for her works in Tamil, Hindi and Telugu films.
Here we have a chit-chat session between our host Shalini Gupta and Tara Alisha Berry-
Q. What was Tara Alisha Berry in her childhood?
Tara Alisha Berry:
“ I was stubborn, not an anti-social person and my friend circle kept increased from my close relations. And initially, I was very confused when I entered this industry because some people told me to do modelling, some of them used to advice me to go with music video and casting. I used to say to all in the film industry that ‘Don’t have any plan B and don’t have any backup plan at all.’ “
Q. Which platform will you prefer the most from this: Web series or OTT or Music album?
“I am always ready to do anything in acting. I would like to do anything on a media-related platform. If I believe in the story and ideal with my director, I will be 100% part of it.”
Q . How theatre plays an important role for media aspirants?
“In my point of view, the screenplay is completely different from theatre. When I was studying at Japan university, I have done much screenwriting. You know when you are on the stage, the last person in the last row should feel what you’re feeling. So that is the main thing in acting.”
Q. How much are you fond of acting?
“ Since I have participated in many extracurricular activities from my childhood. I have taken part in many programs in my schools and colleges. But in my college, I came to learn about the eternal things in acting. I love my passion and I love acting. So if you want to be happy, you need to follow your passion. If you wake up every day, choose what you need to live for.”
Q. Have you ever been in this situation that you are not satisfied with the project or you are not satisfied with your director but you need to adjust?
“ Yes, absolutely I have been in that situation and every actor experienced this condition. I have believed in my part I played and I need to earn money to live in Mumbai.”
Q. What is your opinion about this common phrase among Indians, ‘Unless you didn’t have a godfather from this industry, you couldn’t enter in this industry?
“Honestly, I don’t think it is true at all. I believed in the hard work in this industry. Even I know people with godfathers in the same industry can easily pick the chance for the first time. But after that, it depends upon the actor/actress. The fact is that the audience likes you or not and your hard work speaks there. At the end of the day, the audience is going to decide for you”
Q. Are any other skills needed in this film industry other than acting or it is oddly enough?
“No, acting alone is not enough. You need to be very patient and positive. There would be some months with no jobs and you may think that it would be better to shift over to plan B. At that time, you need to be persistent. I am very lucky that I am having such kind of people in my life to pull me out from those hard times and be there in my thick and thin. And sometimes, you might be alone, so you need to have the skill to pull out yourself from the bad situations.”
Q. Which do you believe is the most Hard work or Smart work?
“I think the combination of the both. Hard work is essential and I believe in hard work. Also, I am a least smart worker but I have my managers Kunal and Arthi who are handling me in this industry over the years. And also, smart work needs prior experiences.”
Q. What is the daily routine of Tara Alisha Berry?
“I usually go to sleep earlier between 10 pm to 11 pm and wake up at 7:30 am to 8 am. Then I open the window of my room and I take my dog down. Subsequently, I take my tea and breakfast. I do yoga and workouts, particularly I am interested in Zumba as it is one of my favourites. After these activities, my routines are not similar. It may change daily. In sometime, I used to spend my whole day with my cat and dog.”
Q. Are you a dog person?
“I am a lively person. and love all animals, living beings except moths and butterflies (chuckles). I kept the snake for a few days as I found it in my garden. Some people are scared about dogs or any other animals. So, what I like to say is you don’t have to rear a pet and you don’t need to dislike it.”
Q. What are the best qualities that you possess and mention two worst qualities that you would need to be changed?
“Firstly, the worst qualities are I am very stubborn and I would become very anxious if the things were scattered and not at the fixed place. I am a very emotional person and Yeah, I know that being emotional is not a disadvantage. At sometimes, I would be in bad mood. On the other hand, my advantages and positive qualities are I am a hardworking person and I am highly committed to my work. I am confident and I would always say, ‘Yes, I can do it.’ I encourage people and I give them mental support. I believe don’t be too judgemental about yourself. Because you know more about you than anyone else.”
Q. What is the best thing in this film industry and what is the one thing that you prefer to change in this industry?
“ We can get a wide exposure among people is the best thing in this industry and the industry needs to change is that more women should be placed in powerful positions. As I love to see women in powerful roles like directors, main roles and DOPs. “
Q. What do you like to say about the term ‘Feminist’?
“Lots of people think that feminism is ‘male bashing’ and it is completely incorrect. Feminism is the idea only about gender equality. Women are just the same as men and normal human beings.”
Thank you, Tara Alisha Berry.
It has been a wonderful session with you. Our sincere regards to Tara Alisha Berry all of your future success from PARADOX INDIA
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Devina Kaur : Redefining ideologies with grace.
Devina Kaur: Author, creative entrepreneur, researcher, inspirational speaker, radio host and producer of the 𝐁𝐑𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐈𝐀𝐍𝐓𝐋𝐘 𝐒𝐄𝐗𝐘 show with Devina Kaur and founder of the Sexy Brilliant™ Global Revolution.
Sexy Brilliant™ is a non-profit foundation dedicated to removing toxic shame and raising human consciousness. At the heart of Sexy Brilliant ideology lies the universal concept that we are all worthy of love.
Devina Kaur has developed her signature, life-changing KAUR™ process , which teaches empowerment through self-knowledge, self-love, and radical self-acceptance. Her book ‘Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious’, first book in the Sexy Brilliant™ series that puts special emphasis on the KAUR™ process. Her online courses are changing lives all over the world, as her students learn to rediscover their divine authentic selves!
Devina Kaur is also a full time single mother, a yogi, a martial artist, and a lover of both animals and people alike.
In addition to the formal bio, please share your inputs for the following:
1) There’s nothing more brilliant than a woman owning herself and spreading the knowledge to others. But assuming you always pen down your experiences that shape you what led you to write the book.
Ans- Putting together my book ‘TOO FAT, TOO LOUD, TOO AMBITIOUS’ was a personal challenge in writing and it was deeply intimate because for me it was symbolic to how far I’ve come not only in terms of my career but also as an individual. I hope by sharing more of myself with the world in the most authentic yet brilliantly sexy and unapologetic way that others find the courage to do the same. Life is such an adventure, we all have problems and challenges however being resilient are the key. It’s resilience that took me from where I was as a person to where I am today. My journey will never stop. My creative self-expression is something I look forward to sharing with the world and those I love. Writing is just one of the many ways I do that.
2) Did you know you were always going to do this? What drives you and how do you balance goals and experiences?
Ans- I was born and raised in a traditional Punjabi family in India, I was constantly told that my body was too fat to be loved, my laugh was too loud and masculine and that my ambition was too much for the world. Through years of therapy and professional help, I have UNLEARNED this previous conditioning and discovered that my inner wealth was never too fat for me to celebrate, my laugh is perfect to attract the right people and my ambition is never too much. Today, I can confidently say that my biggest motivation stems from wanting to inspire others to be their divine authentic selves, especially in a world that reminds us daily what is wrong with us—whether it’s our bodies, our minds or whatever it is that makes us unique.
My voice may be too loud for the world but it has never been too loud in my journey towards making my dreams come to life.
That is ultimately what the Sexy Brilliant™ non-profit foundation is all about. Being uniquely, perfectly YOU and removing the shame and stigma associated with being authentic. I want to leave a legacy that speaks to what I have to offer this world; I want the Sexy Brilliant community to feel encouraged about who they are without feeling ashamed of being the truest version of themselves. Everybody has something to offer. We need to celebrate one another for the value that each of us bring to the table, and extend that table for future generations. So to answer your question, It is a calling that was inspired by my unlearning process and is part of me confirming my right to be me. I want that for everyone!
3) Is there a passion that you are working towards and How?
Ans- I’m working on a short book series that will help guide those who are going through various challenges in their lives for instance addictions, insecurities, eating disorders to regain purpose. As somebody who has struggled with addictions and eating disorders myself, these issues matter to me because I know the journey of going through them can be hard and lonely. The purpose of the series is to help people find their sense of self and to make them understand that they are worthy of healing and love. With this being said, there are so many exciting things I am working on because I’m the type of person who is always buzzing with ideas and strategizing with my wonderful team. I want to change the world and empower people through the work of the Sexy Brilliant non profit foundation in removing toxic shame and raising human consciousness
4) To make your story relatable to those who might need some inspiration, on empowering women, can you share your challenges as a woman in your line and how you overcame them?
Ans- Challenges come on the path to true success, and nobody is exempt from experiencing difficulties that will ultimately test our strength and courage. My journey has been filled with many challenges, from overcoming addictions, to living a lonely life in the world of a start-up business. Enduring a semi-arranged marriage, to being a full time single mother. It’s not easy, however, I am thankful for the entire journey because not only have I grown from my experiences but I’ve learned alot from them.
I always say there is strength in numbers and that means actively seeking out support from people that love you and you look up too. Getting the right team and professionals is key to a good support system in your life. When you are surrounded by spiritually wise, genuine people you will be more inclined to find joy in daily things. This has motivated me to achieve my goals and face challenges. It makes the tough times seem less of a burden to me.
I have struggled with depression and I just want to say, If you are struggling with dark thoughts, remember that no part of you is your own enemy. Welcome every moment and feelings and treat every emotion like a gift; never be ashamed to seek professional help to grow into a version of yourself that you would be proud of—in spite of all the difficulties you face, know they will shape you into a stronger, more resilient person.
5) What advice do you wish to give to someone who may be in a similar situation as you?
Ans- Don’t wait for others to make things happen, don’t wait for permission and let go of the labels. When you practice radical acceptance of others you also make room to be less self-judgemental.
Never change yourself to fit the standards of the world and those around you. Being authentic is something that nobody should fear because authenticity is the new currency of the world. Embrace yourself in such a way that it leaves no room for the other people to treat you less than you deserve. Be kind, patient and have compassion for yourself. Don’t rush according to other people’s timeline at the same time don’t delay any further the happiness you know you deserve.
Be respectful to your friends, family and strangers alike but understand that they all speak and judge from their own perceived level of consciousness. Your challenge is to unlearn the old programming while listening to your own intuition and inner voice. Never be afraid to follow your dreams because the world needs to hear them. Understand that not everybody will love or cherish you the way you think you deserve. As long as you have yourself and are surrounded by those who want to see the best in you, nothing else matters.
6) What is your life motto, quote, belief that keeps you motivated to your goal?
Ans- Always Sexy! Always Brilliant! Is my mantra. What I have learned after surviving the startup world is that it is important to be flexible in your goals. That also means to stay focussed but be willing to change course as you receive new information. Dream big, energy follows intention.
7) Lastly, tell us about your book! What can we expect from it?
Ans- When you read ‘Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious’ I think some readers might be a little shocked by my openness and honesty. The book has its racy moments as I talk about sexual pleasure and my relationship with my body. I hope that readers will find it refreshing and eye opening. My goal is to lift the veil of shame by talking about the things that many people feel too guarded to talk about for fear of judgment. I just felt that it was important to lead the way for others by showing them they are not alone and the path to authentic self-love does not have to be so scary. The KAUR™ process that I outline in the book is meant to provide a clear illuminated path that is easier to follow to help you find your own sexy brilliance.
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Dolly Jain: Inspiring generations ,one pleat at a time!
Dolly Jain has been an inspiration and a flag bearer of no work is small or non-monetizable, no dream is small and everything starts at home! From draping saree as a world record in 18.5 secs to draping it in different styles may that be celebrities, their weddings or working with big designer houses!
1) You were a homemaker with impressive saree draping styles which apparently turned into your profession!
How would you describe your journey?
2) “Saree is India’s traditional wear which is somewhat fading away”. People choose to wear more western outfits.
What is your opinion on this statement?
Dolly Jain: I don’t agree with this because about Saree-I could say, like, 10 years down the line, people had literally stopped wearing sarees. They jumped into, like, you know, the young ones jumped into gowns and the moms, like our moms who are wearing sarees on regular basis started wearing Kurtis. But I have I mean, I would say maybe 1% of my effort, but I have seen a huge, huge comeback of sarees. Now, not only the moms but also the young girls and the young generation. They love to wear Saris. They just need an occasion and an opportunity to wear saris. Whether it’s a school farewell party or get-together a meet. I think they all have started wearing sarees in different, different ways. Clubbing with jackets, denim, and skirts. I would say that saree would always be there. And, uh, saree has done a huge comeback
3] We have read on the internet about you setting up a “Limca book of record” draping saree in just 18.5 secs, which is commendable!!
What sort of riyaz did you do to get this accurate and swift?
Dolly Jain: If you believe me, I didn’t do any practice. I didn’t do any Riaz. I literally did nothing. It just so happened that I was draping saree and my daughter came up to me and she said, Mom, you drape Saree so fast I said, Yeah, I was draping and she said, Okay, let’s record it. And obviously, when we were recording, my speed was a little more but didn’t know that I could make it up in 18.5 seconds. So it just happened. Basically, I didn’t practice. I didn’t do anything. And once that happened, we sent it to the people, and that’s how it just worked. So I literally didn’t practice, and I don’t practice the speed. What I only practice for coming up with new styles for the next generation.
4] There are innumerable saree materials and draping styles followed in each corner of India. Which style of fabric is your favorite one?
Dolly Jain: um, I think, I loved every fabric. I don’t know why I’m never able choose any specific fabric! Because I live in Bengal, So I love Dhakai. Born and brought up in Bangalore, I love the Kanjivaram as well. Um, even a net fabric came in. I loved the net. Now it’s organza and organza has been my all-time favorite. So I think if you just ask, then I could say An organza saree. And I love draping it where people just find this fabric very, very difficult. I find it the easiest to drape organza Saree.
5) “There is a drape for every personality, every occasion, and every mood. I have visualized them all” a well-said quote by you.
What impact did you want to always make with the quote and the work?
Dolly Jain: Definitely, there is a drape for every personality every occasion and every mood this is so rightly said ! See if I just see my Granny and if she wore something like a net saree with an open pallu I don’t think so I will be able to take up my granny !! It’s also about the personality and it’s also about the age. I think there are few fabrics which just defines your perfect sari for that perfect age ! So I think like a net sari for a young girl with toned body and everything if she’s wearing it, I would just say that she looks gorgeous in that sari with that same saree on my granny in the same way I think would not appeal to me for every occasion!
I have like a beautifully fully embroidered saree and you know if it is something like a sad moment definitely that sari doesn’t suit the occasion ! If it is a happy moment and you’re wearing a white plain saree which has no detailing and there’s no jewelry will be so weird. So I just feel every saree has got an occasion, every saree has got its personality, every saree has got its mood and it just takes the shape of the body and it just fits so well ! I would say that you just need to know what is your type and what is your kind which country you’re moving in what is your society around and then decide the drape and then decide the sari I think that’s so much much smarter way to do it !
6) Besides this stressful professional life, how do you cope with the pressure and balance your personal life as well?
Dolly Jain: This is a very difficult question. Professional life and personal life, I think these are two, different streams. And it is so difficult to balance both. But I think women are programmed by God in such a way that they can manage and they can balance both.
My kids have grown up now, but when they were young, I think that was the time when I really miss them a lot. When a girl child is born especially, I don’t know about the boy child, because I don’t have a boy! But when a girl child is born, her mother always wants to see her grow, from the first time she walked, from the first teeth to the first word she spoke. the school, the dances, the activities everything!
I think she just wants to cherish every moment, but that apparently couldn’t happen with me because I was so busy with my work that I had to balance both there are alot of times when I think my husband has been like a good mother to my kids and he’s taken care of them. So I think my kids have grown up more with the dad than with the mom. But today when I look back I just wish I had a better way to balance both but somehow I think my kids have not been complaining they’ve been very happy, they’ve always been with me, they’ve taught me so many things and they never gave me stress. I think that is so important.
If a lady is growing in her career it’s so important for the whole family not only the kids, the husband , the inlaws everybody to be one and support the person so that she could stand and you because she believes in herself! So I think if you make the situation difficult I think she will do what she wants to do but the situation the work mode and every surrounding becomes very difficult for her. I’m blessed that nothing of this sort happened!
7) In your entire career, what is the contribution of designer Sandeep Khosla sir who insisted you do celebrity clients and help you pursue it?
I can’t thank Sandeep Khosla because he’s been the person who has actually seen my art. He was the one who introduced me to the big houses, from Ambanis to Bajaj to Mehtas to Jindals. He is the one who actually saw that she can do much more and, you know, the diamond doesn’t know its value. I could call myself a diamond here, but the person who was actually engraving the diamond, in that beautiful ring! That person knows what value this is, and then who’s wearing it. So I think, Sandeep saw all of this in me and then he literally groomed me and pushed me into society, and that’s how I am where I am.
8) Speaking of celebrities, you have draped outfits for Deepika Padukone, Isha Ambani, Priyanka Chopra, etc. Working with many celebs, who would say was the best experience amongst all of them and how?
I can’t see any one celebrity. When I did Sonam Kapoor, she was the best bride for me, when I did her drape for the wedding, it was like such a beautiful dream wedding then I did Deepika then I did Isha Ambani then I did Akash then I did know Alia at that time and I’ve done a couple of projects with her. I didn’t Antara last you know wedding so i feel everybody has got its beauty and they’ve always been so kind and so polite to me. I never had a problem with them they’ve always loved my work!
They’ve always appreciated my work so can’t name anyone but I’m glad that you know I could come up to this stage where people initially thought that I’ve gone mad and I’ll never be able to make a career out of it today. They all want to start a career in Saree draping, I think that’s like a huge thing for society and it’s also a learning thing for the society that never look upon any work, No work is big or small it’s just the way you look into it!
9) You draped Natasha Poonawala’s outfit in the world’s enormous fashion event i.e Met Gala? How’d you initially felt when you were given this opportunity? Were you excited or nervous or anxious, etc.?
Sabyasachi had called me up for Natasha Poonawala drape, it was a very happy moment doing something for the Met Gala and you know representing India. When Natasha was doing this and all the way calling me from Calcutta to do this gave me a huge huge honor! Also I proved myself that I am capable!
You know it’s not always someone else credit sometimes you should give the credit to you! You are capable, that’s the reason people hire you, people call you because you know your job very well and it is no joke to be at the Met Gala!
I’m glad Sabhyasachi who is one of India’s favorite and one of the best designers of our country and not only country but world-renowned designer saw this in me and when I was given this opportunity I didn’t have a look at the sari didn’t know what I was doing but just saw the whole thing like a day before and was very nervous definitely but I have always been very confident in my work because I know when it comes to Saree I can’t go wrong! So I think Saree is like my baby and I just handle it with lot of love. So it just falls so beautifully on the person whom I’m draping.
10) What message would you like to give your well-wishers?
Dolly Jain:One message that I would give to all my well-wishers, my friends, my followers, my instant family, my Facebook, my youtube, family, every single person, every single woman living on this planet. I would just say one thing God has given everyone 24 hours and we all have been blessed with something or the other special thing. But what actually happens is in that 24 hours, we give our precious 16-17hrs to the family, not even thinking that you know we might need that half an hour for ourselves. I’ve spoken to so many women and they say OK we don’t have time, We don’t have time!
I know how to do this but I don’t have time I just say that it is fine to give your 12 to the family it’s fine but then I think in that 12 if you can just squeeze in things and give that half an hour or 30mins to the thing that you would love to do you would want to do I think you will also excel in your field. It might be a storytelling thing, it might be poetry, it might be listening to music, it might be dancing, writing poems, singing it, or might be playing an instrument but that period should be yours!
You should just feel happy that apart from all the other routine work that you’ve been doing as a mother, as a wife, as a daughter-in-law blah blah blah you have also done something that you cherished and was your hobby, and when that hobby turns into a fashion when that passion turns into a profession you never know!
So it’s time for you to start today, there is no tomorrow! Say in this 24 hours, I’m going to do this this this and that 45 minutes should be included in your agenda, no matter what you do but that 45 minute shouldn’t move so I think we all can do it is just how we plan it! You have to basically direct your mind and be very strict about it and then just see the magic happen all the best guys ! I love you all stay safe stay blessed.
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