It’s a little irritating to us when all the time we hear it from our parents that ‘Are your friends safe to hangout with?’
I guess we were always safe till a level physical harm was concerned, but not that sure with emotional. We as youths have to understand, the company we hangout with is the same company which nurtures our character, which influences the choices we make and the very same choices direct us to our future.
We need to learn to say “No”, cause you cannot be omnipresent ! You know what’s good or bad and even after that if you choose to be with bad, you’re hooked. The craziest part is when the bond grows old, the emotional attachments haunt you down when you no more hangingout with them and this does leads one into depression. So if we already know that the seed one fine day is gonna end up cultivating a poisonous fruit, let’s get the seed out rather than later struggle chopping down a huge gigantic massive strong tree.
When we were small we had a story that keeping a rotten mango in fresh mangoes spoils all the mangoes. Same happens with us the company of friends we keep,the talks we have,the ideas we discuss,the innovations we back,the places we wander,the topics we discuss,the bond we share directly or indirectly affects our living and thought process. So its very important for us to choose wise and stay fit emotionally. Do not let toxic friends affect you and pull you down.
Stay in good company, with friends who encourage you to reach new limits it will surely act as success mantra!
The problem solver element: Self Motivation
Theses days all of the people are integrated with the negative thoughts and feel demotivated. Seems we have lost the battle, we have dropped our weapons and surrounded. Then the question invokes can we get spark to do our things ? can we make our life better than before/now ? Yes, for sure you can do. Just you need to find the reason and lit your lamp with the spark of desire. In short amtanirbhar – motivate yourself. It’s not that difficult or out of the context as we usually think. It’s pretty easy if you are determined but terms and conditions are always applicable.
The first thing you need to do is to find out the thing you love to do most, then try to engage in. As we know success or the happiness is hidden in the work we love. As per human nature we all want to achieve our goals. We day dreamed about that, we always imagine that situation. What if really you are there, so let’s take a step closer towards it. Make your day plans- own plans execute them try to fix bugs and errors that leads you out of it. Adding up the days will make your week planned. Then you can directly shift to a week-long plan, for example : you should set a short goal to complete your work then track the process often and then try to complete it in a week.
We all know it will be not that easy, what if we failed ? but at the last you will be step closer towards it. Setting the tasks is good thing, if you complete it in time then you are on the right path. If not don’t worry the goal setting will teach you efficient time management. At last you will be better than yesterday. The thing matters here is to be better than today and I think that’s not that hard for you. I know you are capable to do so.
All you need to know
The world facing the huge pandemic- the covid-19. Its worst out there. Nearly it’s been year we are locked -down. The situation is getting worst sometimes. Actually, due to this thing many of are mentally disturbed. We overthink, we be sad for no reason and often get annoyed to simple things in surrounding. We’ve simply had enough: Enough of being inside. Enough of working remotely. Enough of having businesses shut down. Enough of schools being closed. Enough of being isolated. Enough of everything.
We all complain about the things, we live over the excuses in day to today life. You don’t like the way you are – change it. You don’t like what you do – change it. Change is everything and the rule of the mother nature. Adopt yourself in every condition, always be ready to face upcoming hurdles. Complaing about the things is not going to change the situation. You’re the one who can overwrite the story and create new history. Fit in your mind no one is coming to help you in life and no one will is going to save you. Nothing will change until you act for the change. If you make changes on daily basis…. Daily improvements to make your life better. Leo Tolstoy once said: “everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one things of changing himself”.
Actually we all have heard this before many times in life but none of us acted for it. Talking truly we have reason for every problem and solution for the for the problem of others. And that’s just it isn’t it .. you cant change the world until you change yourself. The world could be right, if man could be right. Getting the motivation from other sources wont work until your fuel starts burning. Be self-addicted, self-motivated, self-focused. The day people start talking about you that day would the day you start making changes. You deep inside know you are the problem for the problem because you don’t find the solution for problem. So gradually problems don’t go away and decide to stay up there with you. Knowing that thing and not making the changes is ALL ON YOU.
When you started and you feel like quitting. Remember the all those who said you’d fail. Remember what made you to do this. I know beginning is half done but being in constituency is never done, starting is hard – working on it is tough. Remember pain is temporary greatness lasts forever. You can quit but before that take a deep breath look back into life and ask yourself how bad do you want? Stick it out and get your rewards. The rewards wont leave their home to come up for you. You should approach them , you fail , you approach, you get. If your will and hard work is real rewards can leave their home and live up with you. If you think getting more money is reward then you are on the wrong bus.
At night when you are broke- you ask life why me? For the pains and problem. God whispered why not you? I believed you can do, I know your ability. I am giving you this because I want you to be better. I want you to help. But you doubt yourself, although I believed in you. If you don’t want me ? you will be reasons for the permanent tears and pain in your life. He said you are the solution for the problem until you see it as a problem. You are drowning yourself in a dead sea. Now you are one who will decide what you have to do.