What’s that mind boggling situation or an event happend in your life where you felt happiness like never before. You felt like this was the moment you waited for and your heart just bloomed like a beautiful flower blooms out. Hey, and can you remember that phase of your life when you left helpless had not idea or solution to it and was worried where to and and how to handle the pain. Then, where you got confused about the man you saw next street and was thinking of him whole day and trying to remember where you had seen him before. Also to your reminder, did you get thought of that horrific situations in your life if you saw a horror movie or faced some uncomfortable and disturbing deaths. You also might remember one of the times when you got into anger at very high extent that you even if wanted could not control it. Take yourself to that situation where you felt like you got this! You felt confident about yourself. You knew how strong you are. Well, all these are related to any one who is reading this because everyone faces these circumstances and being a human emotions are part of our system. It’s not new to all of us what emotions are. But what’s not new is that it’s okay to have them, all of them. It’s completely fine. You can’t wish or think of being happy all the time. That’s not what life is about. Happiness gives you a sense of satisfaction and relief because you have sacrificed and worked hard for that happiness to be felt or in other cases of happiness where by just dancing in rain you feel happy is because all worries you forget. Imagine about what would happen if the aspects you have realised by your mistakes or bad events would not be conquered by you if they won’t exist. You would realise nothing. And realisation is the first step towards understanding the working system of so called “Life”. So stop saying why bad things happen to me! They happen to make you realize. All about you living a life is learning. You are master of your mind.
All you need to think about is today. And by thinking it means thinking about what will i learn today and not running behind having great day. Emotions are fine. Let them out. It’s not possible that you will not face any obstacles. Things might hurt you. Learn from them and give it back as hard as the Newton’s third law. Can we just normalise that crying out is ok or having fear about something is fine though it’s a so called MAN or a woman. What is not okay is sticking to that sorrow for long time and instead of making it your weapon, making it your weakness.
People often judge feelings as “good” or “bad” by whether or not they are pleasant or unpleasant: Happiness is good, while anger is bad. Why so? Emotions, whether pleasant or unpleasant, are adaptive and useful, providing and teaching important lessons. In other words, even unpleasant emotions can be “good.” Just a pure perspective is needed for that to inherit.
When you get anxiety about something which you have already faced and had got hurt by it. Since you experienced that particular emotion, you had the motivation to take action and do something positive to improve your chances of not having or experiencing that particular feeling again. That’s what is learning.
So, from now cry when you feel like crying, do all your mood fixers stuffs like having a ice cream or listening to your favourite tracks. Accept every emotion and enjoy the process of experiencing and learning. And just like are keyboard is full of emojis make your life full of emotions!
Know the line between ego and self respect.
You often make a statement so easily like she has gotta hell of an ego or sometimes she is full of attitude..pata nahi bhai kis baat ka itna attitude chadha hai bandhi mein! There are few convos in male circle which includes uss bandhi ke piche bhai ne apni self respect kho di hai! Theres as thin as hair, a line between these two concepts self respect and ego.
For example when you have a huge fight with your parents and you refuse to eat a bite of food and you expect them to say sorry and then you admit to have food (yaha koi self respect ya ego kaam nahi aayega do thappad padenge mummy se,ek belan bhi pad sakta hai! fir kha lena khana chup chaap). On a serious note when you have a fight with your best friend and you know its your mistake but you still aren’t able to apologise because ‘mein kyu karu,wo aake kare’ this is an act done out of ego (baadme wo sorry bolne ke baad 2 thappad kha hi lena)
But when it comes to self respect it is when you are sorry,you multiple times have apologised and got insulted and now when it comes to your self worth all you need to care is your self respect. The fact that your self worth determines your self respect is little of a unspoken concept. But when you know your worth,you settle for the best, you refuse to accept what does not fit into your instincts, you know what you have and you know what you want out of yourself.(This does not mean you should go and tell your papa that your self worth is a new audi and you want that) This sums up as you know you deserve to be treated with respect and be loved with dignity so you shouldn’t settle for someone who would treat you as an option!
BE A CHOICE TO THE WORLD, DON’T BE A GOOD TREATED OPTION AND AN ILL TREATED HUMAN.
Why should I talk to them first? Is ego. But Why should I ALWAYS talk to them? Is self respect.
See in the mirror how perfect you are! Know what power you have and how amazing you can be! Let others know how should you be treated and do not settle for something that isn’t acceptable! Have self respect because you know your self worth…but don’t be someone with high standard worth that is mistakenly treated as ego.
MAN WITH EGO IS MAN WHO MADE AN ERROR IN CALCULATING HIS SELF WORTH.
Sometimes keep ego aside to have amazing humans in your life because they deserve to know there worth too!
Be Grateful!! Know why??
When was the last time you smiled and were truly happy with no complaints? If you took more than a second to think, then here I have something for you. A video have been spreading in various platforms recently, a lecturer named Karthik introducing a kid named Ashish as his best friend. This kid supports his mother who is a fruit vendor near woodland showroom in Vasai West Maharashtra. The guy says how cheerfully the kid greets him when he returns after some days. Even without seeing his face behind the mask Karthik got welcomed by Ashish. He later describes how alert and alive the kids five senses are and how skilfully he communicates and handles the accounts. When he was asked about his birthday both mother and child said neither they celebrate nor they know the date. The conversation continued where Karthik gets to learn how the kid looks upon his life through his innocent eyes. Karthik lend his hands to support Ashish in every possible way.
This kid who was blessed with those skills whether was fortunate enough for education or not we don’t know. We don’t even know the struggles he had to face in his day to day life. Truth is there are many like this kid who struggles for their daily wages in the age to get education. There are Hundreds and thousands of children in developing and under developed countries who are still illiterate who had to work from their childhood. If the fundamental capabilities such as emotional, physical and social capability of individuals are not developed in early ages it would affect the Childs learning potentials. It’s only through education they will get a bright future.
The word education which is derived from a Latin word ‘educare’, means to bring up, or to bring out. Every man is born with certain inherent talents. These talents are to be brought out and made use of, then only they will shine. Education lead a man from darkness to light and ignorance to knowledge. Education does not mean only reading, writing and doing arithmetic. It has different aims to be achieved. The most Important among them are knowledge, social, moral and spiritual aims. A man without education is nothing, but an animal, ‘Vidya Vihinah pashu’, says a Sanskrit shloka. So we being educated should turn and look at people around who suffer and should be helping hands to them. During this pandemic where every single person is suffering, the crisis of those living at the fringes of the society is lot more than ours.
There are many blessings around us. Life can be hard but looking around the people who are less fortunate than us can be a reminder to be both grateful and appreciative. From family to career to cup of coffee we have are things to be grateful. Even during storms of life we should be focusing on all right things and leave out the ones that are hard. Being grateful motivates one to be a better person.
“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Next time before you complaint remember this,then smile knowingly and be grateful for your life. Let’s be another Karthik for another Ashish and make our world a better place to live.
Girls Are Coming Out of the Woods – A Discourse on Rape in India
“Girls are coming out of the woods,
wrapped in cloaks and hoods,
carrying iron bars and candles
and a multitude of scars, collected
on acres of premature grass and city
buses, in temples and bars. Girls
are coming out of the woods
with panties tied around their lips,
making such a noise, it’s impossible
to hear. Is the world speaking too?
Is it really asking, What does it mean
to give someone a proper resting?”
These words taken from the poem Girls Are Coming Out of the Woods by Tishani Doshi only begin to talk about the issue of rape in India. For years we have seen, read, and heard of tragedy after tragedy, girl after girl, injustice heaped upon injustice, in state after state. Where does it stop? Where do we draw the line? What are we doing?
Let’s call a spade a spade; we are afraid. We are afraid to speak up for the victim. Haven’t we heard of case upon case where people are being silenced for their dissenting words? Therefore, we cower. Even though we say we want a change we are unwilling to be the agents of change. Our mothers, our well meaning mothers tell us not to get involved. After all, they don’t want to see us harmed, or worse, murdered.
I don’t write this article to condemn, I am writing first and foremost, to myself. I am writing to the people of India to rise up out of your slumber and take a stand against the iron hand of injustice weighing upon our nation. Women, who are worshiped as gods are also treated worse than criminals. My fellow Indian, would you do that to your god; the god you have set up of brick and stone? Have you then no reverence for flesh and bone?
This is not an article for answers, of those I have none. I have questions, and questions, and questions for us to ponder upon. In a book I once read it says to look out for the cause of the widow and the orphan. But to quote Tishani Doshi, they are a victim to “…all the lies/ whispered by strangers and swimming / coaches, and uncles, especially uncles…”. This cannot go on.
So I ask you, my friends, spread your arms and feel the winds of change. Let us stand together and encourage the victims to come out of the fear, out of the shackles of bondage, out of the woods of despair, and to speak, to write, to sing; let us stand together for those who are oppressed, especially those who are so because they were not born boys.
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